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Difficult Ex-Spouse
Jump Start Your New Live in 2019
Divorce Attorney vs. Divorce Mediator
Advise from Friends
Do Your Best to Stay out of Court


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Difficult Ex-Spouse

When your soon to be ex-spouse is be difficult:
Sometimes a soon to be ex is difficult because they always have been, During the divorce process, there are situations where exes make life difficult for their spouse out of spite, anger, revenge, and an attempt to punish. The intentions behind your difficult ex’s actions are important, but what’s even more pertinent is learning how to manage them so that you can find the most peace through this arduous process.
Taking a broader perspective beyond divorce, we know people can become challenging when they are harboring negative feelings.

Jump Start Your New Live in 2019

Jump-Start Your New Life in 2019
After spending many years with your spouse, it may be easy to fall back into old habits after divorcing. However, this is the perfect opportunity to either try out new things or revive old interests and hobbies. Following is a list of things you may want to consider:

·         Look for a new career
·         Pursue new or old hobbies
·         Find more time to relax

Divorce Attorney vs. Divorce Mediator

When deciding to divorce, should you use an Attorney, Lawyer, or Mediator?

Let's begin by discussing the difference between the three professionals. An Attorney has a license to practice law and represents their client as Power-of-Attorney in Court when pleading or defending a case and this is referred to as litigation. A Lawyer is a member of the legal profession who gives legal advice and works in the legal profession to discuss legal options. A Mediator is a neutral third party in a private setting who acts as a facilitator during a collaborative process in an effort to discuss and resolve issues pertaining to your divorce.

Advise from Friends

Friends are great at giving advise, but they are not Divorce Experts.  Friends are great for moral support, and the ones that have already been through a divorce can be very helpful emotionally. They understand the stress of divorce and can give relevant advice based on experience. However, each divorce is unique and seeking out the help of a trained divorce expert will not only save you money, but a lot of headaches! 

Do Your Best to Stay out of Court

I’ve been to family court more times than I care to remember, and I can assure you it’s the most negative place on earth. These courtrooms are breeding places for hostility and controversy and the attorney's make a ton of money on fueling the fire! If you are having issues communicating with your ex, perhaps enroll the help of parents or a trusted source to simply mediate and help you both overcome the hostility so you can move towards an amicable resolution. A long, drawn out litigation will certainly have long-lasting negative effects on your children and your credit. Both parties must be willing to stay out of court, so if your ex isn’t cooperating, find someone close to him/her that can point out all the negatives of litigation. Mediation is always the better solution!

Advantages of Divorce Mediation

Mediation has may advantages.  It is a lot cheaper than litigation, you and your spouse control the process...not the Court, and it is much quicker than going through the litigation process.  Mediation is done in the privacy of my office and agreements are made in a collaborative process.  The only time that you will be going to Court is on your actual dissolution date.  There is no waiting months for a court date or spending hours away from home or work in a stuffy courtroom.

Debt Consolidation vs. Bankruptcy

After an adversarial divorce, debt can become a overwhelming and looming matter. Individuals often come to me and ask for my opinion regarding bankruptcy.  My opinion is usually to avoid bankruptcy if possible and try debt consolidation through an agency that specializes in this area.  Debt consolidators can help you charge-off or greatly reduce the compounding interest on your accounts and set up a payment plan to re-pay your creditors on a budget that fits within your means.  It may take several years to re-pay these loans, but in the long run.

What is Divorce Mediation

Mediation is a voluntary, flexible, non-adversarial, private and confidential process for resolving your divorce or other family issues with the help of a neutral facilitator who will assist you in reaching an agreement. The divorce mediator is not a judge or arbitrator, and cannot force anyone to do anything, but will use his experience and training to help you reach an amicable agreement. Any agreement which is reached must be acceptable to both parties. You and your spouse retain complete control over your divorce or other family matters and can be far more creative than the courts in designing an amicable and cost-effective solution that works for your family.

Same-Sex Divorce

A same-sex couple who marry in Connecticut will be able to obtain a divorce in Connecticut with a Divorce Mediator, Divorce Lawyer or Divorce Attorney as long as one of the parties still resides in Connecticut at the time of the divorce action. Parties who make a transitory visit to Connecticut for the purposes of becoming married will not be able to divorce in the Connecticut Courts unless they can prove legal residency. Likewise, if both parties initially reside in Connecticut and move to a state that does not recognize same-sex marriages, they will not be able to obtain a divorce in the new state because they will be deemed to be unmarried; nor, very importantly, will they be able to obtain a divorce in Connecticut because they will not meet Connecticut’s residency requirements.
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